HEY, I'm Monica!I help high achievers overcome burnout and build relationships that are
authentic, aligned and deeply connected.
Burnout is never really just about your job, it’s a symptom of a much deeper internal conflict!
MY burnout STORY began in 2017It took a painful and heartbreaking marriage crisis to awaken me to the reality that I was painfully disconnected from myself, my husband and my children.
Like many of you, on the outside, it appeared I had it all together. The house, the family, the successful and advancing career but inside I felt like a fraud.
As a first generation college graduate and Latina, I finally had the paycheck and the life that my parents had always dreamed and hoped I’d have. To the outside world it seemed that I was thriving, living and operating in my zone of genius and enjoying every minute of it. To me, it felt more like I was running with my hands full on a treadmill that was going faster than I could keep up with.
I felt hollow, exhausted and unhappy. In some ways my ego felt good but soul was dying. What I truly needed back then went beyond self care and boundaries but because I was so disconnected, I couldn’t fully see the problem, let alone the solution.
THE BREAKING POINT
The days were long and the weeks were fast. I felt like I never had enough time after work to catch my breath. To rest, recharge and reset for the next day. At that time, I had 3 kids under 6 and a never ending to-do list that “self-care” kept falling to the bottom of.
Back then I believed I should’ve felt more grateful, more present, more satisfied with my accomplishments and happy…. but I didn’t. I believed that, as a therapist, I should’ve been able to “figure out” what was wrong with me and my relationship. I felt like I should’ve known and been able to solve the “problems” on my own.
I was should-ing all over myself. I was full of imposter syndrome and self doubt. I felt truly lost.
I often found myself wondering if maybe this was as good as it gets. I wondered if I would ever feel good enough at the work I was doing and as a wife and mom. Every day I would get home and feel like I had nothing left to give anyone. I was constantly feeling exhausted, empty, resentful and disconnected.
THE HEALING
It was then that I said ENOUGH and started on a personal mental, emotional and spiritual quest for solutions. It took me recognizing that my soul was dying to wake up to the reality of the situation and confront my burnout.
In that time I began reaching out to therapists of various modalities, coaches and began working diligently to confront and transform my work patterns, relationship dynamics, mindset and beliefs. I went ALL IN on identifying and healing my core wounds that were colluding with me remaining in burnout. I recognized and owned that the problem wasn’t the job. It was ME!
As I began to reconnect with myself, I was more available to reconnect with others. As I sensed myself “coming home” to me and my loved ones again, I knew that I was healing. It was then that I became painfully aware of just how many others were like me. Struggling, overwhelmed and feeling like the weight of the world was on their shoulders.
I now had the tools and the roadmap, and as a result of engaging in my own healing, I also had the margin and bandwidth to conceptualize how I could help others like me. I knew I wanted to help fan the flame in others that I could see was burning out. It took me nearly 10 years in community mental health before I could fully see and confront my burnout.
Like a restaurant chef who’s fingers had grown numb to the heat of the plates, I had grown numb to my own burnout and my new superpower was being able to recognize when it was happening to others too.
My decision to seek help, understanding and healing was a decision that sent me on a journey that I never would’ve imagined for myself.
I found freedom, true healing, joy, confidence, balance and control. I found me again!
WHAT IF YOU’RE ONE DECISION AWAY FROM A WHOLE NEW LIFE?
WHAT WILL YOU CHOOSE?
How I Work: I am a USC master graduate (Fight On!) with a strong foundation in the science of psychology, the area of marriage, family therapy, and the study of the brain’s ability to heal and transform. I am a licensed Marriage Family Therapist in California (#84305) and in Texas (#204381). I am a certified trauma specialist, trained in Trauma Focused CBT and Certified in EMDR and other trauma informed modalities.
I commit to participating in ongoing trainings to ensure that I can continue to best meet the needs of my coaching clients.
Some of the additional trainings I have studied include but are not limited to: Somatic healing, Polyvagal theory, Internal Family Systems, Ego States, Attachment Theory, Health and Wellness for Trauma: Sleep, Nutrition, Movement and Stress Management.
So while I have the clinical knowledge and expertise to help you heal, this will NOT be therapy! Here I will utilize my personal experience, clinical background, knowledge and understanding of trauma to help guide you in identifying where you’re stuck in deeply rooted unhealthy patterns that are keeping you in the burnout cycle.
Here, I will be bringing in my full authentic self and personal experiences to provide you with a framework to build a full life that lights you up AND helps you find alignment, confidence and fulfillment in your work again.
TRANSFORMATION
Through our work together, you will be provided the framework and tools to rise up from your current state.
You will learn how to renew your energy, live more refreshed, aligned and empowered to step more fully into your heart centered life and purpose!
Are you ready to dive in?
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